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How long does it take to get over infidelity and divorce?
It has been 16 months since I found out about the other woman and my now ex left. I feel as though I have come a long way but at times I feel as if everything happened only yesterday. Maybe it is because I found out they are visiting his family for the first time a family that I got along with very well. Maybe it is because he chose not to call his son for such a long time that our son got very upset. Why does he have this power to still hurt me? I truly believe I have gotten over the fact that he is with someone else. Maybe it is because I never thought he would treat his own child this way. I think that is what hurts the most. Your thoughts?

What are the factors that lead to infidelity and how has that increased the divorce rate?
HI, I am a senior in high school and I have to create a graduation project and paper based upon my question. I really need your comments from how you feel, experience, or other resources. Give me the TRUTH THANKS FOR YOUR HELP.....Cant wait for your responses

My husband wants to use pics of threesome with him and his guy friend as proof of infidelity to get divorce?
Can he do that? It was his idea to have threesome with him and his guy friend to spice up our marriage, so i agreed and we did it many times. i never thought he would get that low to use pictures of these sexual trysts as proof of infidelity to get divorce Ok i admit i had sex with his friend three times when he was not around, but we told him about it and he was cool with the idea and thought it was hot. and the pics he is using were taken when he was present. What should i do to get out of this? i don't want my family and friends to know about it? please help

Why are the rates of divorce and infidelity during marriage so high now compared to the past 50 years?
Look, I'm not saying people should stick it out in bad marriages and suffer for years...but why aren't those situations avoidedor is it that some bad marriages are just the work of destiny...or things just happened to turn out between those 2 people at that specific time??

Going to family counsel tonight. Mom/DAd and 3 kids. 16, 14, 1nd 11, infidelity/divorce?
situation. I am wife and afraid I told counsel to much last time. Isn't this crazy, will she judge husband, he cheated oldest child know details of infidelity, and is just reaching out to dad again, Why am i afraid of still protecting him? The counseling is really for kids, but I still feel like protecting cheating spouse, help me get over him

I live in Mass. My husband and I are divorcing due to infidelity on his part. What are my rights?
I live in Mass. My husband and I are divorcing due to infidelity on his part. We have agreed to a mediated divorce seeing that we do not have children and have only been married for 2.5 years. Our biggest concern is the house we just purchased 6 mths ago. What rights do I have regarding our living arrangements? He is insisting on staying in the house until we sell but it's a tough market and may take a while. The mortgage is in my name his name is on the deed. What are my rights??

Infidelity and Divorce in Aberta?
My mother has been with a man for about 13 years. He has been verbally abusive, in and out of heavy alcohol abuse and finally this spring when she had a cancer scare started cheating on her. She found out in October although always suspected it and has asked him to move out. Anyways my question is...... would she be entitled to half of his stuff because of the infidelity. not to sound like a gold digger but he is taking advantage of the fact that she is willing to settle on a small amount of compensation for the house because he wants to keep it just so she can have it done and over with. I think she should go to a lawyer and get what is rightfully hers.Sorry I forgot to mention that they are married.

Can depression lead to infidelity, fall off love, fall in love with that person and wanting divorce?
All of the above in a span of a week I believe she had been depressed on and off, but we never brought it up, and thought our discussions resolved whatever was bothering. There was never any violence, happy kids, great vacations, great relatives, she did what she liked to do, did not have to work, I travel for work and was attending school, so she had more household responsibilities, but I helped clean and cook whenever I could, as well as chores with kids. One of the sons has ADHD, so she was always stressed and took everything personally blaming herself for his mis behaviors . I never left anything with her unresolved or let her knowingly suffer. Then there was a tragedy to a family she knows and everything fell apart. I can see she is hurting, and her face is ghostly, and want to help even after the cheating I do believe the real her is somewhere hidden. I love my wife still, but I do not know if I can rebuild this marriage. But I still want to help her. Any help???For everybody who keeps telling e to let her go, I have. However, it is my duty to protect my kids from her behavior and erratic actions. A man who has an affair with and supposedly falls in love, what does it say about his character? Do I want my kids with such influence? Hell no. To protect them, I need to know facts and answers, and this is where I am now. Personally, I know I can get over her, and I have to. But a sick mother is not good for my kids, or their well being. When she is depressed and acts in irresponsible manner, are you supposed to just think of yourself and move on and ignore the kids? No, it is my duty as a father to protect them from this low moral and valued individual, and that is why I need my answers. For those telling me that I am not over her, you are wrong. I even had a champagne to celebrate my resolution, but I will not let up till my kids are safe. As per my attorney's request, I have initiated a full PI work on that individual too. Thank you.Well, the therapist has said that she is depressed, and also in denial. No one can force one to get help, unless that person is willing. She also says that it is an emotional relationship she is in it is a long distance phone relationship that she taunts me with phone calls, giggling, etc. Also she is trying to provoke me into doing something, but I just leave the room or house not wanting to get myself in trouble. I know I am moving on, but I still want to her the help she badly needs for the sake of my kids. I do not know why people are saying I am still holding on to something who wants to be let go. She basically wants the cake and eat it too. I already have started to date to meet new friends, not relationship. Just want to be appreciated for who I am and none more. I do not think I am ready to trust anyone like I did. With time, I will. But I MUST make sure the mother of my kids will be sane and fine and not get hurt by a philanderer. That is all.

No Violence. No Infidelity. Divorce due to not "enough" money and "not happy" -?!?
Women initiate most 60 % divorce proceedings from data I once saw, though it IS higher look in the newspaper where divorces are listed it actually hovers around 80 % . What is very often said by women when they give a reason s for their " having" to file is " things didn't work out" or, we " weren't compatible" or, " I fell 'out' of love" or " I didn't love him anymore" " 'lost' feeling for him" hence the term " irreconcilable differences" was born, though ANY marriage counselor will tell you that " MONEY" disagreement about the handling or more often, a lack according to the woman is the biggest factor in unhappy marriages by far. To any of these " reasons" the question must be posed what the h e l l does money have to do with LOVE? " Love" is UNCONDITIONAL not suggesting someone stick around if they are being physically abused or have been cheated on but don't hand me " sexual abuse or mental emotional crap THAT goes both ways . Shouldn't those who file this way " PAY" ??

I am divorced, reason being infidelity and violence. What do I tell my son when he grows up ?
It was painful and I just left and my son was born in another country not the country of my marriage . Now I live with my child and my parents. My dad is his father figure, whom my son addresses and granda short for Grand dad . He is going to be three soon. Last evening he asked where is his father ? I am worried what do I tell him once he is older. I dont want him to know his dad was a cruel man. Neither do I want to evoke any curiousity that he might want to find his biological father, or blame me for denying him his father's love though I know that there would be no love from the father .I have never denied his father access to the child. But the father himself has never bothered to see his son.What would be a simple answer to keep the child's self esteem intact and feel secure ?Oh by the way It was only after talking to a psycho therapist, an attorney and a family counsellor, I removed my self from the situation to have the child in peace. Financially, I have done very well and independent, infact I have not taken a penny from the guy. I left because of violence. I dont nurse any hard feelings for this person. All I want for my son is not to harbour anything negative. I would be the last person to teach my child to hate. I need is a good comforting answer as to why his father is missing from his life.

Anyone familiar with divorce based on infidelity and passing on STDs?
He is active duty military, and just came for a month for the birth of our daughter which he denied being his until a couple of days ago based on the way she stretches...See what kind of person I have to deal with. Got results after being admitted into the hospital that I contracted an STD and it was also passed on through delivery to my daughter which could cause her to go blind.Anyways, in the State of Michigan, does anyone know if I could be granted a divorce based on this, and if they would grant it right away? And also, would they allow me to leave the State since I have nothing nor anyone here. Have been disabled with the pregnancy due to many health issues it caused, and have no income as of right now except what he passes every month.I really want to leave, get my degree and start fresh, but cant do that here.We have 3 kids and just started buying a house about a year ago that I dont even care to keep.Any information will be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.I guess that in the past 10 years he never showed his true colors until now. Today I know things about years ago that I would have never thought possible for him to have done. Some people have a silver tongue, and when you trust someone I guess you are bound to possibly get burned. I dont regret my children, they are all I have in this world, but I do want whats best for them, and I do know he is not.

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